I like to think of life being like a chocolate box, one with lots of layers (the more chocolate the better in my view!). You have to keep these layers in balance for the whole thing to stack up. The layers represent the different aspects of your life. You may have a school layer, a friends layer, a family layer, a layer for after school activities, one for you personally, one for your job etc. The layers will vary from person to person. You have to consider what layers are in your candy box.
Once you know what layers you have, then ask yourself, “What happens when time gets tight? What layers suffer?”
This can give you a good indication of what happens when you get stressed. It also gives you thing to watch out for so you can recognize problems before they get serious.
For example, I know that when my time gets tight, the first thing to go is my personal layer. I don’t work out, I stop reading for pleasure.
One student I know found that when she was overloaded with her extracurricular activities it was her school layer that suffered, but she protected her friend layer strongly.
Another student found that it was his friends that suffered. When he got busy he was very abrupt with them and stopped hanging out. Obviously that can lead to problems later when he has time for them again.
If you know what the signs are for you, you can take a step back and look at more balanced options. Be up front with friends and family about what you can and can’t get involved with at that particular time. Keep a balance and adjust it so that you can cope short term, and move it back when you can.
If your child is struggling to control their time and get the results you know they are capable of then it is time to take action. The Focused Time Management System TM for Students avoids all the clutter and gives you the most important things to focus on to get you back in control of your time and your life. It’s all step by step, not a big mish mash of things. So you do step one of the system, and when you’re done with that, you move on to step two, and so on. So easy! All the tips, tools, and worksheets are handed to you on a silver platter. E mail me at Julie@thegradecoach.com to arrange a time to chat over your issues and see if I can help